Proverbs 4:23

Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life (NLT)

Let’s face it, waiting sucks. Especially when it is for something that you know you were created for, something that brings true value and meaning to your life. Take love for instance. Why is it so elusive, and often so exceedingly painful? Can waiting help us prevent, and possibly heal, a broken heart?

We are not merely flesh and bones. In this body God has planted a heart. This heart gives us an immense capacity to love and be loved. It allows us to experience both moments of passion and a lifetime of commitment. Our lives thrive when we find this sort of love and especially when it is lasting. This is because it is a fundamental truth about the human condition that we were created to be interconnected, and in relationship with one another.

It is a fundamental truth about the human condition that we were created to be interconnected, and in relationship with one another.

This is what makes the hurt we experience as a result of a broken heart so crushingly painful. It is not natural. It is the complete antithesis of what we are supposed to experience. It drains our hope, and it drains our passion because we have lost something that was supposed to be life-giving. It is an innate part of our design and when it is taken away we are left disconnected from ourselves and it is easy to lose sight of our mission, value, and worth.

This is why there is such a huge responsibility to be found in the way that we handle our relationships. When did we get away from understanding the impact that we have on one another? Isolation, depression, and loneliness is killing our world. It’s sweeping through contagiously infecting all of those found in its path. It seems overwhelming and unconquerable. The solution to this problem starts with us, and it needs to start today.

The hard part about this solution is that ultimately we can only control our own behavior and our own choices. We can be the best witnesses to others and influence them in powerful ways, but when it comes down to it they will choose how they behave. The cure for a broken heart comes down to balancing two things: being preventative and being proactive.

Being preventative simply means loving deeply, but loving the right person. We always need to be giving in a relationship, yes, but there is a time when you can be too giving. Think about it like this: if you and the other person are not in the place where you have been able to make the lifelong commitment of marriage to each other, than why would you be so giving to the point where you will lose so much that you can never regain if they leave? Giving of that intensity should come from a place of deep commitment and lifelong love. Think twice before giving what you can never take back. Again, waiting sucks, I get it, but that’s what God is trying to tell us in Proverbs 4:23.

Giving of that intensity should come from a place of deep commitment and lifelong love. Think twice before giving what you can never take back.

Being proactive is making the decision to choose God as your number one relationship no matter what stage in life you find yourself in. Single or married, never stop pursuing God. Is the love we find in Him different than the kind of love we find in another? It sure is. But it is irreplaceable nonetheless and will fill you with hope, patience, and value far above what you can find anywhere else.

Waiting sucks, but it is worth it. Waiting for the right time and person helps us to find love that lasts. Seeking and waiting for God’s healing gives us the space to heal. If God has placed a desire on your heart that is honorable and faithful to His Word, He will surely deliver on His promises. The joy you will receive on that day will far exceed the pain of this moment. Cling tight to that truth and “guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life” (Proverbs 4:23, NLT).

5 thoughts on “How to Heal a Broken Heart

  1. Thank you Zachary , such a profound message and l wish l had come across this message many moons ago , but as the saying goes , better late than never . I guess now is the perfect time for me to be reading this . Think twice before giving what you can never take back , this is too deep and has really helped me , I had a eureka moment . Most importantly , Proverbs 4:23 is going to be my go to verse and l will centre my life around it .

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    1. I am so grateful that you read my post and even more so that God spoke to you through it. So many I’ve spoken to in the past, including myself, expressed that they wished someone would have told them this when they were younger. That’s exactly why I felt led to share it today.
      I’m praying for you continually and God bless!

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